Deep thought of today: Recently, I noticed that an acquaintance of mine from my same high school has violated their probation two times over the past 6 months. (In my area, this information is by no means kept secret.) In continuance, one of the offenses they committed being much stronger than the other. However, this person is the type who "tries" to change but never seems to get to a safe and comfortable place. For example this particular individual has been married AND divorced (with two small children) all just barely by the age of twenty-three. The interesting thing to me about this particular subject is that life is a series of choices. Also, it is negotiable whether or not one's fate is predetermined. However, personally, I believe that the person in question has the power to change their inner self. I do not mean though, that it is natural and innate. I believe that in order to make this change one has to realize that there is a problem. Also, I feel that anyone with the common knowledge to do so can. Is it a matter of ignorance? Or unwillingness? My next question is how far does one have to go before they reach the breaking point or "rock-bottom."
Rock-Bottom is different for every person, but I'd say in most cases, its prison. Or losing everything. A person will only change is he or she WANTS to change and when that WANT to change comes along, has a support system that will encourage (but not enable) that person.
ReplyDeleteMy grandmother gave me a pretty awesome book on the subject.
Re-reading this, I'm also pretty sure you're talking about my ex-boyfriend XD
ReplyDeleteI agree. I don't know. It is a very interesting subject to look at. For example, I have several family members who are in the same boat as this. It's almost like they find some sort of enjoyment with dissappointment. Even through all of this, I also feel that it is best to remain supportive. And yes, I am. However, I do feel that there are some sort of underlying and/or undiagnosed psychological issues with him. I will mention though, even though, as I used his particular situation as an example (because clearly he has nothing to hide, now--lol)these questions ablsolutely can appy to anyone.
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